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Addiction is a chronic brain disease that often lacks ongoing chronic care support, leaving the afflicted person at high risk for crisis and affecting the entire family.
Women with Alcoholic or Addict Partners
How are women impacted when their partner/spouse is in active addiction? There are many ways a woman is impacted when her partner is a person with a substance use disorder, and women respond to the situation in different ways. For example, a woman might wonder if she caused it, think that she can fix it, or believe that she can control it. Others try to keep up with their partner’s substance use, thinking “If you can’t beat them, join them.” Some suffer silently, afraid to voice their concerns because of silent scorn, possible abuse or fear of losing their partner. And others do their best to manage and mitigate the damage by cleaning up messes that aren’t theirs to clean up. This can stem from shame or embarrassment or trying to protect the family’s reputation. All of these reactions come from thinking you’re responsible, in some way, for your partner’s addiction—and that you should be able to control it or fix it. The bottom line is that being with a partner who is in active addiction is lonely. The person you’ve committed to as your partner isn’t able to be fully present because they’re essentially beholden to alcohol or other drugs. When addiction takes hold of your partner, you’re pretty much sidelined. And it’s a very lonely existence.
Family: Men & Women
The Crucial Element is Love
Program Integration
The disease of addiction affects the lives of everyone associated with the addicted person. Hearts feel broken and dreams seem snuffed out by a disorder that only wants to destroy, suffocate, and mutilate everything good. The Sober Recovery Journey works with suffering addicts and alcoholics to change the trajectory of our clients lives and their families. We believe that our individualized approach to recovery is the key. We provide a safe and therapeutic setting for family members, spouses, and significant others to address their emotional pain and express their fears. Learning that love and trust can return to the home and the relationship is part of the healing that takes place in our family sessions. Solutions are available for families in the throes of devastation caused by addiction. We coach clients and family members on how to begin anew and work to repair the damage with alternative actions and behaviors that really work.
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Every family’s goal is to experience happiness, trust, relational accountability, love, tenderness and a shared sense of safety and security, along with the promise of sustainable-positive growth. Sadly, our experience tells us that much emotional damage has taken place between family members or significant others before the addicted one reaches the point of change-readiness. That’s why we seek to begin the restructuring of those relationships right away in the recovery process. Through coaching methods and holistic therapeutic experiences, we have been successful in bringing healthy change and renewal to lives and homes that were previously on the precipice of collapse. In the Sober Recovery Journey Program we believe in addressing issues head-on and using the power of emotional healing, spiritual continuity, and positive universal energy. We are helping our clients begin to feel hope and the possibility of forgiveness.
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Guilt, shame, and low self-esteem are emotions that commonly plaque the addict or alcoholic based on his or her past behaviors. It is our experience however, that the family or significant other of the addicted person often has a high incidence of negative emotional harm, feelings of shame, low self-worth and at the minimum, some signs of internal anxiety. In some cases, the family member may even exhibit symptoms of clinical depression brought on by the whole of their experience with the addicted loved-one. Lack of trust can invade the heart of family members and leave very little room for hope, faith, or renewal.
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As addiction and its consequences begin to affect the lives of the addict and the family in personal relational ways, something else is happening, something unseen by the beholder. As addiction begins to destroy life and love as we know it, negative emotions, shameful thoughts, flawed feelings, and a spiritual disconnect begins to settle in our core. The thoughts and feelings experienced by the addict are guilt and shame, low self-esteem, and a feeling of worthlessness, all tied to the creation of negative energy. Almost in the same time-space, the loved-one, family member or significant other begins to experience feelings of abandonment, loss of trust, low self-worth, and a broken heart spilling fear into the shattered lives of all- these are the ingredients of negative core energy. We believe that in combination with other relationship work, the powerful technique of energy balancing therapy can used to help foster peace, hope and renewal in damaged relationships.
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We believe that a holistic recovery can and must address the negative core energy that results when addiction nearly destroys love relationships, families, and homes. Our recovery coaching program integrates the client’s strengths, goals, experience’s and needs with our many years of recovery experience. Previous successes are evidence for us that our program and its processes are healing lives and families. Family issues are a reality in the lives of our clients, and we want to bring these loved-ones into the healing process wherever possible. Our recovery coaching program includes holistic therapies like energy balancing for the client and a loved-one. Just as we work with the recovering addict to remove negative barriers in their core and help them begin to forgive themselves and heal, we also encourage the spouse or significant-other to experience therapy that releases negativity and balances the flow of positive life-force energy back into their lives, helping to provide freedom to feel, trust, and love again.
Avoid the Three classic survival techniques:
Don’t talk, don’t trust and don’t feel. Many men and women in this situation take on a well-intentioned caretaking role that can eventually become codependent, where he or she is consumed by their partner’s behavior and puts thier needs on the back burner. Their moods, decisions and very being hinge on the partner’s mood and behavior. Another tendency is to become preoccupied with his or her partner’s substance use—playing detective, constantly checking up on him/her.
The Sober Recovery Journey offers an educational and supportive program of recovery coaching to help you learn about the disease of addiction, recognize how you’ve been affected and develop healthy new ways of coping. With care and support, you can work through the chaos you’ve experienced and understand how to set healthy boundaries and focus on your own recovery while the spouse is working on theirs. We offer conjoint sessions and follow-up opportunities for checking your wellness progress. Take the first courageous step to reclaiming your emotional health and happiness. You’re worth it! Reach out for the help both of you need today.
